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Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women.
We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him.
The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.
“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.”
The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked.
“So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.”agree except the 14 years old bit, this is something i was taught to be concerned about for as long as i can remember. to be fair, i think my brother was taught that too as a child, taught about protecting yourself from unwanted sexual advances. but eventually that stopped being an issue around the same time it became even more of an issue for me. and it’s never stopped being one.
President Obama, yelling at Presidential Candidates after they do nothing to stop the booing of gay soldiers.
SUCH A FUCKING BAMF I don’t even love his politics BUT SUCH A FUCKING BAMF.
you tell them and you do it and you show them and stuff
“I think the people hoping for a lesbian princess need to be reminded that Disney movies are aimed at kids. I don’t think there is anything wrong with being gay, but to push the idea at kids before they understand what that means will only confuse them. Also as a parent, I would be pissed at Disney for addressing such controversial topics in a movie intended for children.”
I’ve been waiting for an opportunity like this. Generally I don’t pay much attention to opinion blogs because a lot of people are under the impression that there is no such thing as a ‘wrong opinion’ (which there is) and talking to said people is much like talking to a pile of rocks, except even rocks would be preferable to these kind of ridiculous people.
“I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being gay, but -” Nope. Stop right there. If you truly think there is nothing wrong with being gay, then that would be the end of it. You would not have this opinion. There is no ‘but’. Queer couples should have the same representation in children’s movies as heteronormative couples because - gasp! - there is nothing wrong with being gay!
You speak of ‘confusing’ the kids - tell me, though. How? How would this confuse them? When children watch Disney films, they are not thinking about sex. When they see Ariel and Eric kiss, or Aladdin and Jasmine, or Aurora and Phillip, or every goddamn couple in the entire franchise, they are not thinking about penises and vaginas, they are watching two people who love each other kiss. It’s simple and actually incredibly clear. There is nothing confusing about two people in love.
See, heterosexuality and heteronormativity is so ingrained in our culture that, most of the time, we don’t even realize it’s there. This confession is a prime example of that. And to assume that representing a gay couple would somehow be ‘pushing’ homosexuality on them is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Considering sexuality is an innate part of us, something we are born with and cannot change, you could show a child nothing but animated gay couples going on adventures and falling in love and if the child is straight, they’ll still be straight at the end of it. Representation is not about trying to coerce anyone into being anything they’re not - it is about shedding light on the people of society who have been kept in the dark, about teaching children that not being the norm is okay.
Do you realize that there are children out there with gay parents? Gay relatives? Gay friends? That there are children out there - prepare yourself - who are gay? What do you think it’s like for them to see the same boy and girl fall in love over and over? That what they feel isn’t ‘appropriate’? That what they feel is ‘too confusing’ to be displayed?
It is statements and opinions like these that reinforce homophobia and make kids afraid to be themselves. This is what keeps people in the closet, in denial, afraid to come out, because the majority - heterosexuals like yourself, I presume - have condoned homosexuality/being queer as being ‘too confusing’ when it’s been proven time and time again that it’s just as natural as anything else.
The legislative change will apply to all marriages performed in Canada regardless of the laws of the jurisdiction in which the couple live, Justice Minister Rob Nicholson announced Friday. “I want to make it very clear that, in our government’s view, these marriages should be valid,” Nicholson said at a news conference in Toronto. “We will change the Civil Marriage Act so that any marriages performed in Canada that aren’t recognized in the couple’s home jurisdiction will be recognized in Canada.”
(via Canadian Government Declares All Same Sex Marriages Legal and Valid)
THIS.
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Zachary Quinto, who plays Spock in the rebooted Star Trek movies, revealed that he is a gay man in an interview with New York magazine in October 2011. Previously he had declined to discuss his sexuality.
(see more — Out and Proud: Gay Celebrities)
*~ FINALLY!! ~*
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Phyllis Siegel, 76, right, kisses her spouse, Connie Kopelov, 84, after exchanging vows at the Manhattan City Clerk’s office on the first day New York State’s Marriage Equality Act went into effect, July 24, 2011. Siegel and Kopelev were the first to marry on the historic day, and they were joined by hundreds of other couples taking their own vows on a sultry midsummer Sunday.
Here, a look at some of the very, very happy couples, their families, and their friends … Happy Couples: Gay Marriage in NYC
